We have been asked by a
local, VERY VERY WELL KNOWN celebrity( you would know her name
instantly if we were the sort that would kiss and tell) to offer a
bit of our website for her newest endeavor. She's down-home and
downtown, smart and tart, knows what to wax (and what not to wax)
and is on a first name basis with every decent doctor and lawyer
in three states. She's cool in jeans when everyone else is stuffed
into a ball gown. She may be the girl next door. Her name is Miss
Eden.
She will answer your questions
about life, love, beauty, career, real estate (oops! just kidding)
or anything that weighs on your mind. All replies will be on our
website, as she is just a little too busy to reply to everyone
privately. She did want us to say that the more interesting
questions would receive her best efforts, and she will overlook
spelling and grammatical errors.
For salon
information questions, click here.
Miss
Eden FAQ
Who
is Miss Eden?
We
know and we're not telling. And no, it's not Jan or Richard
(or anyone else that works in the salon or spa).
There is a hint that is somewhere on the website, but you must
know what you're doing to find it.
Do
my questions go to the salon so you can laugh at them?
Your
questions are emailed straight to Miss Eden. The salon sees them
only if they are published on the website. Then they get to laugh
at them.
Why
does Miss Eden do this?
She
has always been the "go to" girl for her friends. When we
discovered this wonderful quality in her, we jumped on it like a
bird on a bug. Besides, she thinks it's fun and so do we.
Will
she give me a private answer if my problem is "delicate"?
Sorry,
no to private replies. The anonymity of the web makes that a moot
point. Anyway, how delicate can you get? Everybody loves the
juice, so slosh a little out of your glass.
What
if the answer she gives causes me problems?
Miss
Eden here. You already have problems or you wouldn't be
asking the question, would you? You are free to follow my guidance
or not, and the answers are priced right.
Dear
Miss Eden:
I
would love to give my wife a spa package for Christmas and
include a Brazilian wax. My problem is simple… I don’t
know much about the pain issue involved in a Brazilian wax.
Would you enlighten me on this process and how much pain will my
wife endure? Thanks for your consideration!
Just
wanting to pamper my wife and get a little benefit myself!
Thoughtful
Dear
Thoughful,
The
pain for you and I will be negligible, for your wife, it will be
....over as quickly as possible. There is really no way to make
it painless, so they try to be fast. I did ask and even if you
buy her a brazilian, she can get a pedicure if she wants, and
there is no pain at all involved in those.
Miss
E
Dear Miss Eden,
I am so ready for some pampering!
I am a busy mother of 1.5 year old triplets. My babies are
absolutely heavenly, and I feel so blessed to have them.
Also, I am stressed and tense. I have been drooling over
this website for a few months now, looking at all the lovely spa
packages. But then I think, am I being selfish wanting to
spend so much on a day of pampering, when I have diapers to buy?
Should demand that my husband just understand that I want to be
princess for a day? What should I say to convince him that
I NEED a spa day and spending the money for it is not being a
spendthrift.
So ready
Dear So ready,
There's an old saying that is especially
applicable here, and it is "when Momma ain't happy, ain't
nobody happy" Triplets? I believe your husband might want to
give you more than just a day to relax and rejuvenate. More like 3
days, one for each little bambino. Everyone needs to get away from
the daily grind and if your hubby has even one single objection to
you having a spa day, calmly smile, look him straight in the eye
and say "when momma ain't happy....
Miss
E
Dear Miss
Eden,
My daughter and son-in-law will be having my first
grandson in late December, early January. Can you recommend
the Perfect Eden Spa package for the two of them (hopefully
together) after the young man arrives?
Thanks for your prompt response,
Jack
Dear Jack,
Why wait for
your grandson to get here? I'll bet that your daughter (and
son-in-law) would love a massage and pedicure right about now.
When a young lady gets to the point that she can't see her
feet, it's time to get out the wallet and treat her to some tender
loving care.
Congratulations
on your first grandson. Don't spoil him or anything, okay?
Miss
E
Dear Miss
Eden,
I have a
question that I accidentally e-mailed to the salon a few days
ago....oops. Is it customary to tip the salon/spa
technician/service provider? I don't want to look stupid or
insult anyone. So if it is, what is the proper amount or is it a
percentage?
thanks
Spa Amateur
Dear Spa-Am,
While I know they don't require tipping, it's
always a nice way to say thank you. The amount to tip is
completely up to you. It's not like a restaurant where the waiter
depends on you for their livelihood, so the customary 15-20% of
the bill is really a bit steep. You just be nice and tip if you
want, I know it will be appreciated.
Miss
E
Dear Miss
Eden,
I once wrote to you about my little girl and her problem with forming
friendships at school. I was revisiting your website to look at current salon
services and remembered the letter and the good advice you once gave me. I
just wanted you to know, that I did take your, and my mom’s advice, (as it was
the same, ‘to raise a good girl and stay out of the day to day drama’ lol),
and things are much better.
After I wrote to you, my daughter joined lots of
middle school clubs, sports and cheerleading. At first since she really had
no one to play with after school, and she used the time to stay after and be a
teacher’s aid, this turned into great grades and honors courses for her.
Slowly things began to change for her.
She is 13 now and this is her last year in middle school, she is a happy. She
has learned that not being part of anybody’s ‘clique’ has been good for her.
She has friends now from each group. She is known for not being a gossip or
troublemaker with the other girls, and for being trustworthy by both friends
and teachers. She has a wide variety of friends from geek to chic. We love
them all, and they genuinely love to hang out with her. I’m so happy to report
she is learning to have good, healthy relationships with other young women.
(Dad is about ready to toss the boys out the door, lol)
Thank you also for the kind closing signature that you gave to me. I had never
thought of myself as ‘Beautiful Mom’ before that day either. Signing it for
myself today….
Beautiful
Mom
Dear Beautiful Mom,
Thank you for your generous and wonderful praise. I'm
glad your daughter has blossomed into a happy young woman. Everyone deserves
to be happy, they just sometimes deny it to themselves. Dad needs to toss boys
out the door. It's his job to weed out the ones that can't get past him.
Let him work. If a boy can sell Mr. Daddy-O.....
Just so you know, you already had all this information
about what to do when situations like this arise with your daughter. It was in
the owners manual for your little girl they gave you at the hospital. You got
that...right?
One more thing. All moms are beautiful.
Miss
E
Miss Eden,
Did you write the text for the Eden website?
Your humor and the humor on the site seem to match...
Wondering
Dear Won,
No I didn't write the copy for Eden's website. I've always
liked the people at Eden and I think that their website is funny
and informative, so I'll take your question as a compliment and
say thank you.
Miss
E
Miss E,
My husband and I will be
celebrating our anniversary soon and I was wondering if you had
any romantic/relaxing ideas. It seems the past four years of
being pregnant, having babies and changing dirty diapers has
zapped my brain. I really would like to do something special
this year, but we don't have tons of money. I have the childcare
all arranged and we are both really excited to spend some time
alone. Now if we can just figure out what we are going to do.
Any ideas?
Thanks for your help.
A Desperate Housewife
Dear Desperate,
I wondered when you girls on
Wisteria would write. Four years of pregnancy and diapers? I
guess zapped is a polite way of stating the condition of
your brain.
I would say that a nice quiet
dinner is a given. Avoid the larger places for something
considerably more intimate. There are so many nice places in
town that I like with really good food that I couldn't favor one
over another, but LaBaguette comes to mind. Across the street is
the Nomad II. Neither are what you would call "family"
places, hence your chances of sitting next to a gaggle of kids
are lessened considerably.
You really want me to suggest
something at the salon for the two of you. I can tell these
things. Get a manicure and have your hair done. Park your hubby
out front with a couple of car mags or plugged into an iPod, or
sit him next to you and tell the stylist how you
want his hair to look. Now's your chance.
You'll be amazed at how much
fun it is to have no real schedule or agenda. Kind of let the
day flow a little, and enjoy yourselves.
Miss
E
dear miss eden this is sometimes ditz and i e-mailed
you quite some time ago and just wanted to let you know thqat tha
ttrouble has passed and every thing is on its way to working out
thank you for your help back the and continue to advice your web
guests by the way i do believe i out grew my "ditz"
persona so thank you sincerely
calm, cool and collected
lol
Dear c, c and c, you
worthless cow
Miss Eden has promised not to be critical of grammar
and punctuation, but this is a perfect example of why you
shouldn't type drunk. Sixty seven words in a single sentence
without so much as a comma.
Goodness.
Miss
E
Hurt by "Friends"
Dear Miss Eden,
What should I do? I had this really great job, but it has turned
sour. I
wanted to go back to school and the big bosses were ok at first,
even
supportive, but when I wanted to get serious, they completely
treated me
like s**t. I was barely granted a "hello" when I came
in. I didn't change
anything about my performance. I still showed up early, still
worked my a**
off, and still they could not be happy that I had realized my
dreams. Should
I tell them how I really feel? Did all those years of loyalty mean
nothing
in the end because I need to better myself? To do more with my
life? You
would think that they might be happy for me. Maybe they are just
intimidated
by my intelligence, or just jealous that I have the brains and
integrity to
do more with my life. Please share your thoughts.
Lost Highway
Dear Lost,
I've sat on this letter for quite a while. So
the thoughts I will share are these:
1.When you quit a job, be polite enough to
stop attending.
2. How'd those dreams turn out? Still at
them? Or did your bosses realize before you did that you just
didn't know what to do with your life and they went on with
theirs? There's nothing like being left behind to focus the mind,
is there?
3. I doubt that there was any intimidation or
jealousy by your "superior" intelligence. Remember that
you are the only person responsible for what happens in your life.
Make your decisions and have the good graces to live with the
consequences.
4. Interesting signature. It happens to be an
old country song. Would you like to see the lyrics? I knew you
would:
I'm a rollin'
stone all alone and lost
For a life of sin I have paid the cost
When I pass by all the people say
Just another guy on the lost highway
(Ol' Hank had a
way of summing things up didn't he?)
One more thing, don't confuse a friendly boss
with a "friend". It's a sign of extreme immaturity.
Write again when you need more advice.
Miss
E
Dear Miss Eden,
I like the haircut I receive at your fabulous
establishment, Miss Eden, but
I'm not connecting with the stylist's personality. The
hairdresser seems to
have no sense of humor. Or maybe that's is the way the
personality seems to
register humor. I'm perplexed. I realize knowing my
head is the number one
thing but a good personality helps the process don't you agree?
Signed
A friend of Marilyn Monroe
Dear FOM,
Didn't read the FAQ's did you? I'M NOT THE
OWNER OF EDEN SALON!!!! And as far as connecting with a stylists
personality, there are days when that would suit me just fine.
Making small talk and conversing with someone that's wielding
razors and other sharp tools around my head AND trying to
interpret my vision for a new look that's the same thing only on a
different day actually scares me. At my age, I have very little in
common with the average twenty something anyway, so what's to
discuss? Boys?
Of course I agree that a good personality
helps the process along. I have met most all the haircutters at
both locations and they all seem to be young and fun. I'm not
young anymore and fun is such a matter of taste. Perhaps you could
meet in the middle and talk about something that interests you
both. I'm going to suggest food for your next topic. Or sex. Or
politics. Or sex.
Miss
E
Hello Miss Eden,
I have a bit of a problem that I could use some advice about. After reading some of your great advice I thought you may be able to help me. Here it goes. I am not liking this getting old thing at all. Just the other day I decided to join a baseball team with some friends of mine from high school. (I graduated 17 1/2 years ago) I have kept myself in fairly good shape but with working so much I have slacked a little in the working out part. I know that is not a good reason but....
that's my story. Anyway I played the first weekend and did awesome! Hit the ball... flew like I was in track again sprinting for the school record. It was awesome! So then the next weekend came and I went out to do the same thing. I realized the team we were playing had quite a few people I knew from school. (ones that forgot their friends after school, became all about the money and toys and forgot all of us who used to be their friends.) Well I got up to bat... the catcher was a girl I used to be somewhat good friends with. I said hi, she said wow, hi, what are you doing here?... Playing ball with my friends... cool, good to see you.... ok so then I bat. I am nervous now because I cannot look bad. So what happens? I strike out... Their team laughs. I laugh too but it ticked me off. I get up to bat the next time... miss the first one I didn't swing, pitcher threw a strike, the next one I swung missed looking like I was playing tennis instead of softball, the third I hit it went to the pitcher I ran like hell but my body got ahead of my feet.... I did everything I could to not fall... Arms all over like a pinwheel... Everyone was laughing... joking with me that I can't slide into first! Then they said are you ok??? Well NOPE I did it. I hurt myself. Pulled my muscles in my sides from swinging like a crazy person and strained my quad in my leg (just went to the doc today) I will now be out of the game for at least 3 weeks!!! GRRRRR. So is there anyway to truly get back in shape like! I used to be? We had 4 people on our team in 2 games pull muscles. One will be out for 6 weeks, pulled her hamstring and she was solid like a rock. I have never pulled a muscle before and this really stinks. I guess I should feel lucky it wasn't any worse. I didn't fall!!! So.... what can I do? Work out more? Stretch more? Please help. I want my old body back!!! Thank you for listening and your response.
Rowena
Dear Rowena,
I have your body from your youth. If you ever
want to see it again, get $10,000.00 in small denomination,
unmarked bills and wait for further instructions. DO NOT CONTACT
THE AUTHORITIES.
Seriously (and after that, how could anyone
take me seriously) you know what you have to do. Start out slow
and work your way up. You can't be in that bad shape or they
wouldn't have let you on the team. You thirtysomething year olds
are still too competitive to allow your team to be decimated by a
bunch of overweight ninnies. Five people in two weeks get on the
Disabled List ? Now you know why the Yankees have almost 15
pitchers in their roster.
Slow down a little, warm up more before the
games, don't miss practice, eat a good breakfast, call your mother
more often, brush after every meal, a penny saved is a penny
earned.....(someone stop me)
Miss
E
Miss
Eden,
I
have very very long dark brown hair. I
want to try something new with it but I don't really want to cut a
lot off. I've tried to highlight it but my hair grows and the
roots look really bad. I want something different even put some
red into it, but the red fades quick. Do you have any suggestions?
HELP!!
Miss
Help!!
Is
there anything you like about your hair other than the length?
It's very very long, but you don't want to cut it. The color is
drab, but you don't want to liven things up and do something fun
because it grows out and you have to maintain it. Since I am
not a hairdresser, I don't know just how much advice I can
give you that I think you would take.
How
about a perm? Since everyone and their dog now owns a flat iron
and has board straight hair, you might try getting in on the
leading edge of things and go curly. I know the men like curly.
because I have it and I get a lot of compliments on my hair, like
"my! you have lovely hair. Would you marry me?" type
compliments. You should just let the stylists at the salon or spa
give you a free consultation, then decide what you want to do.
Nothing
ventured, nothing gained.
Miss
E
Ms. Eden,
I have thick, curly, frizzy, out of control, likes to eat others
for lunch hair!!! I would love to have straight, sleek,
shiny hair that everyone thinks "Ah, her hair is nice, no
longer freakishly large for her head and body!" when they see
me walking down the street. I am 21 years old, petite, after
taking the time apply gel and frizz-ease type stuff, I end up with
it down for about and hour and a half, then I wear it in a
ponytail for the rest of the day, EVERYDAY, no joke... to church,
to functions, to work... I need help!!!!!
What can I do to it? What can I put on it? What can I use....?
--Frizzie Lizzie
Ms. Frizzie,
Look at the two
photos below. They are the same person.
Her
name is Persis Khambatta. She was Miss India and Miss World, and
also stole the show in the first Star Trek movie. She cured her
problem hair with a razor. Your solution may be a little less
drastic. You could try a perm to redirect the curl, or one of the
Thermal Straightening treatments. Or you could flat iron every
day...for the rest of your life, not to mention a fortune in gels
and serums.
Seriously,
shave it for the summer. The men will line up like the panting
dogs they are for you. Send me a photo if you do.
Miss
E
Dear Miss Eden,
I am 22 year old guy, that
wants to enlighten my mom's birthday in May. She has had
pretty much the same hair style and make-up for decades.
It always seems she does not believe in herself, although she
has done more for her sons, husband, and her own mother than she
can ever understand. That is why I would really like to
treat her to a complete make-over that would help her be more
confident, feel sexy, and ready to take on anything that comes
her way. If you could please email me with some
information, I would greatly appreciate it.
The enlightener.
Dear enlightener,
That's a sweet thought, but
look at what you're really saying. You think your mom's a frump.
Trust me...NO WOMAN WANTS TO HEAR THAT...EVEN YOUR MOM. Get her
a gift certificate and let her decide what to do. She may want
to get a few massages or something else.
And stay away from "Queer
Eye For the Straight Guy" on your mom. or
go to beauty school. Its what you really want anyway
Miss
E
Dear Miss Eden,
Are you the owner's kid?
-Suspicious
Dear Suspicious,
What is this fascination with
who I am? Do you know the owner? Do you know their children? If
not, well....get a life bozoette
I know who YOU are Miss Brown
Miss
E
Hey
Ms. Eden!
I
was just a wondering... do you do Brazilian Waxes? I have known
about them for awhile and pubic
hair grosses me out! So, I really want a Brazilian Wax and I have
not been able to find a place that does them...but I also haven't
looked around a bunch... SO Do ya do them?
JCF
P.S.
Do you have a specific age range?
Dear JCF
No,
I personally don't "do" Brazilians, I have them done.
The folks at Eden "do" Brazilians and they begin at
$50.00, according to the website. I'm pretty certain that the age
range is over 18, and if you aren't at least that old, your mommy
will have to be in the room with you so she can enjoy
the....circumstances you have put yourself in.
Pubic
hair in the wrong places tends to gross a lot of people out. In
polite circles it is called "landscaping" and you really
should try it. I'm sure that the folks at Eden would appreciate
your call, and be sure to bring cash. What
is this kid...maybe 12 or 13? I hope she has pubes from her belly
to her knees
Miss
E
Dear Miss
Eden,
I have a beautiful daughter both inside and out. Of course I'm
just a little prejudiced. The problem is that none of the girls
at school will be friends with her. This is heartbreaking when
you are only 10yrs old. This has been going on for years now and
I am at my wits end. I have asked her teachers if she is kind
and approachable and they always say she is one of the sweetest
children in the class. Her teachers have said that she always
seeks out children who have no friends and draws them out. She
takes up for kids others make fun of. The problem is once these
new found friends make other friends, they forget all about her.
Her teachers' best advice to her is that the other girls are
jealous and just to ignore them. It is getting harder and harder
for her just to ignore the other kids, as they now seek her out
to pick on her. They even broke her glasses one day. She has
never been invited to a birthday party or to a sleepover by a
classmate in 6yrs of school. I participate in parent activities
and take her to school functions to give her opportunities to
make friends. Other mothers I have made friends with say she is
'too' pretty or she is too fashionable and it makes the
other girls feel uncomfortable. I have even heard them comment
she is too good at sports and should let someone else win once
in a while. (and so she did, it didn't help things) Next year
is her first year of middle school and the only kids who will
even talk to her are the boys. I can see that the more the boys
like her, the worse the situation with the girls is going to
get. Of course the whole family has an opinion, but not being
distant from the situation their advice is 'blow them off'
or 'punch 'em out'. This will not solve a lonely little
girl's problem. She even has asked us to withdraw her from
school permanently and homeschool her. I was actually visiting
this web site to take her for a 'cheering up day' at the spa
and saw your question area. Any advice is you could offer as an
unbiased party is wonderful.
Beautiful Mom
Dear Mom,
A very
interesting (and vexing) situation you have here. On the one
hand, you want to do everything for your daughter to help, but
the more you help, the problem morphs into something else. As a
parent myself, I feel your frustration. But the reality of the
situation is you can't fix this for your daughter. She has to do
it alone. She sounds smart and obviously has her heart in the
right place, so I really feel that things will work out for her,
provided that she finds the answer. I was never that
popular at school, but I finally managed a friend or two. So
will your daughter. Although she hasn't asked for any advice,
the one thing that will make everyone warm up to her is to
develop a keen sense of humor. Everyone likes the funny kids,
especially if they are smart and pretty. I believe that would be
a triple threat.
Remember that
school is what we must endure to begin the real part of our
lives.
Miss
E
I have a job I love! The
only problem is that my boss intimidates the hell out of me. He
probably doesn't know it, but from time to time he actually
drives me to tears. I am scared of losing my job and don't know
what to do. I know sometimes I am ditzy!!! But I try very hard
and do a good job most of the time. What should I do if I can't
talk to him ?
please help
Some Time Ditz
Dear STD Ha
ha ha, sometimes I crack myself up
Why can't you
talk to him? Does he not talk to anyone else? This sounds like a
simple misunderstanding, mainly on your end. Make yourself speak
about something to this guy every day. Make sure that it is job
focused and that you don't just heap another problem on him.
The troubling
part of your missive is when you say that you try to do a good job
"most" of the time. Every employer I know needs a good
job "all" the time. Make certain to let your boss catch
you working every time he sees you. Then, make sure that he knows
you're working even when he can't see you. I bet that would go a
long way towards eliminating the intimidation factor.
Keep loving
your job. It's very nice to have one that you can love right now.
Miss Eden is starting to get a little weary at hers, but it's
nothing a little bauble or distraction wouldn't fix.
Miss
E
Dear Miss Eden,
I am rather hesitant to ask you
this but here goes nothing....I am a frequent customer at your
spa, and I choose to remain anonymous for fear of embarrassment.
I am now and have been engaged to the same woman for a second
time for almost a year now. I am to be married on January 3rd.
We were married once before when we were younger, but I screwed
up our relationship by cheating on her. We have put our
differences aside, and she has forgiven me. My fiancée's mother
is not only very attractive but really great and understanding.
She was the most understanding person, even more so than my
fiancée. Her and her husband agreed to putting the entire
wedding together, last weekend while my fiancée was out of town
for business we worked on my part of the invitation list because
it had grown a bit beyond what we had expected it to be. When I
got to their place we reviewed the list and trimmed it down to
just under a hundred. Shortly after more wedding discussion my
future father in law called for my future mother in law to take
him down to the car detail shop to pick up his recently detailed
car. I took the opportunity for a bathroom and food break, on my
way out of the bathroom door, as i was fixing to bolt into the
kitchen I was caught by my fiancée's quite stunning older
step-sister, i could tell that she didn't have the usual timid
and disgruntled look on her face. What she said to me just
floored me! She said that in a few short weeks I would be a
married man and that before that happened, she wanted to at
least get the chance to fool around with me. Then she just about
faced and walked to her bedroom and on her way said that I knew
where the front door was if I wanted to leave. I stood there for
about a minute or so and finally decided that I knew exactly how
to deal with this situation. I headed straight out the front
door...There, leaning against my car were the in-laws to be.
They were smiling. He explained that they just wanted to be sure
I had put all the past cheating behind me and had become a
"good kid" and would be true to their little girl. I
shook his hand and he congratulated me on passing their little
test. Miss Eden, should I tell my fiancée what her parents did,
and that I thought their "little test" was asinine and
insulting to my character? Or should I keep the whole thing to
myself including the fact that the reason I was walking out to
my car was to get a condom?
Dear Anonymous,
I heard this joke over a year
ago, but since you went to all the trouble of typing it out,
I'll say this. Miss Eden doesn't like and won't participate in
email forwards, so my advice is to keep it to yourself.
Miss
E
Dear Mrs. Eden
I am a twenty-three-year-old
liberated woman who has been on the pill for two years, and
dating my current boyfriend for the past year. It's getting
expensive to keep up with the costs of the pill, staying
along the lines of equality in a relationship, I think my
boyfriend should share half the cost, because he's getting half
the pleasure. The thing is I don't know him well enough to
discuss money with him. How do you think i should approach him?
Confused in Cushing
Samantha
Dear Confused Samantha,
You don't know him well enough
to talk money with him. Honey...you are confused. I think you
should approach him in a time honored fashion, and that is
(write this down in case you forget)" Boytoy, this
relationship is based on one thing and one thing only, and if
you want any more one thing, I need some financial help to keep
us out of the parent business." You could even do a
spreadsheet with a "what if" analysis to show him how
much money he would save over the next 18 years by keeping you
infertile. I assure you, it could add up to hundreds of dollars
in savings.
And one more thing, it's
MISS Eden. you little trollop
Miss
E
Dearest Miss Eden,
About your spa and salon, they sound wonderful, and I would love
to visit
but, I am very self conscious about being overweight. Would that
be a problem
for your staff, or do you only accept the very skinny?
Weighting to know
Dearest Weighting,
It's actually not my
salon. I don't work there. But I will say that I have seen folks
of ALL shapes and sizes, ages and races, and various means
enjoying themselves thoroughly. It's a lot like the mix of folks
you see at church, only in robes and slippers. I find it a great
delight the way the folks at both Eden's treat me, (and they still
haven't figured out that I'm Miss Eden... hee hee hee hee) so
don't feel like you can't go enjoy yourself because you have an
extra pound or two. I'm sure that given the opportunity, the
people there would find you to be a delightful (and clever)
person.
Miss
E
Why the Anonymity?
Miss Eden -- why do you prefer to
remain anonymous?
Vicki N
Miss N
Would you be surprised if I told
you I was Jennifer Reynolds? How about you
think of me as Wava with good hair and makeup? Maybe I'm that
woman from the car dealership commercials that has the tattooed
eyes, lips and brows. No ...wait... I'm Gary England or Bob Barry
Jr. N
I wish I were the grand dame of
OKC, Eleanor Kamber (where you'll always find the unusual).
I'm me, and let me assure you...
It's more fun this way.
Miss
E
Dear Miss Eden,
I'm very curious about thermal
hair straightening and am looking into having it done. I've
researched it and read message boards on the topic. I've
heard stories from people who say that it was well worth the money
and they saved so much time and effort, and then I've also heard
the horror stories-dry hair, breakage, hair loss, etc. I'd
love to be able to wash my hair and go, but I'm afraid that my
hair would be damaged and possibly even fall out from the
procedure. I have very thick wavy hair that is just below my
shoulders and think thermal straightening would greatly cut down
on styling time. What is your opinion of this procedure?
Dear Very Curious,
I have seen some great results
and some not so great (okay, totally fried) results. I have
consulted with the experts that I go to (care to guess where?) and
they say if your hair is already damaged, you will experience less
than satisfactory results, otherwise you'll be fine. The thermal
straightening process is achieved by breaking down the bonds that
cause the hair to curl and reforming them into straight locks.
Like a curly perm, only in reverse. Keep in mind that the
maintenance routine you have used with your curly locks won't be
anywhere near the same with your newly straight mane. You're in
for regular cuts and daily conditioning. Go for it!!!
Miss
E
Dear Miss Eden,
I must confess... I have a crush. The only problem is, my
crush lives
an alternative lifestyle. To complicate matters further, he
does my
monthly waxing service. It has come to the point that I feel
I may be
enjoying the waxing experience a little bit too much. I
actually look
forward to the pain because the eye candy makes it all worthwhile.
I
know I'll never have a chance with this man and I don't want to
quit
seeing him. If I continue, however, I'm afraid I may end up
in an
embarrassing situation (if you know what I mean). Is this
disgusting?
Please Help!!
Sincerely,
Fetishforwaxing
Dear FFW,
EEEWWWWWW!!!!!!!!!!!!
What's his name? Does he do
Brazilians?
Miss
E
Dear
Miss Eden,
I
have been working at my job for many years and want nothing more
than for it to function properly. However there are many
times people don't do their jobs. Sometimes lifestyles,
life habits, and life issues are involved and they show up
incoherent. Other times people just gossip behind people's
back. I realize that people are just people and gossiping is
just part of human nature, but would it not be better if
someone who has a real problem with your performance just shoot
from the "f'n" hip and be honest, or does this just come
with maturity? Some times people play silly little games,
which can really hurt an individual almost to the point that they
develop an attitude of not caring at all. How sad our world
would be if no one cared. It has now become such an
issue that I may be willing to change careers completely and let
the ship sink because I see many things heading that way.
What do I do about a "so called" friend gossiping behind
my back and not being mature and real enough to be direct with me
and for that matter others like the employers who play the
same silly little games when I am only trying to make my
company the best in the market? And secondly how do I
salvage my friendship with someone who I love very deeply and wish
could just be real with me?
Wishing
the games would cease,
Shootfromthefnhip
Dear
'hip,
You
work where I work!!! Seriously,
you just described the state of the modern workplace. A dear
friend once told me that being in business was like having three
kids. One was always sick and the other two were fighting.
You're right, it is human nature that people are people, and
their behavior comes with maturity. Unfortunately, some folks
mature like French cheese. As far as the gossip goes, it seems
everyone wants to be Mary Hart. Sometimes it's fun, but mostly
it is an attempt to demolish someone, either emotionally or
professionally, under the guise of "fun".
You
let a little kitty out of the bag when you said, "let the ship
sink". That tells me you are an owner, or high-level manager in
a rather small operation. If you truly want to change, see if you
can change the current situation, either with replacing the worst
offenders, or reassigning them to other positions. Like outside
sales. Isn't the Iraq territory open? They didn't come to you
because you were the best in the market, or that they wanted to
help you make your company the best. They came because they
didn't see you as the best and they don't feel like they
should work for the best, and they might sabotage your efforts to
become the best. It would be a shame to throw away all your
efforts over the years over a few mis-hires.
The
Friend. You must confront them about the backstabbing. Let them
know it hurts you deeply. Then cool it with them. Like Artic cold.
You only are adding to their ammunition with conversation. Let
them salvage the friendship, they ruined it.
You
know, work would be so much fun if it weren't for the damn
people.
Miss
E
Dearest
Miss Eden,
I have baby fine
hair which is lightened to a dark ash blonde and then highlighted
with very blond highlights. I really can do nothing with it (and I
am a hairdresser, or at least I was licensed..) unless it is cut
just so and texturized.
I am five feet
tall with petite frame and an oval/oblong face shape. I am
thinking of cutting my hair into a slightly inverted bob around
nose/chin length. I would like to put a wave into my very
straight hair, but am cautious due to its fine texture and the
fact that it is already been through the lifting process.
Could you offer
me your opinion of the cut, perm, color and any styling products
which you think may be appropriate for me?
Thanks
so much for taking your time to read my "story"!
Holly
L.
Dearest
Holly,
You're
wise to be cautious about perming your color treated and
highlighted hair. Things may work out chemically, but the result
is hair that will need 3 chemical
retouch treatments every 4 to 6 weeks. Big time investment
and the payments will go on forever. The cut, provided a skillful
stylist does it, and I just happen to know a few great stylists,
should work out just fine. It will also be very easy care, and
that's a BIG plus. As far as products go, less is more. Try to
use as few and as little as you can on baby fine hair. To get more
volume, learn the fine art of teasing. Have your stylist show you
just how much and where you can add a little backcombing. Works
wonders and is more reversible than a perm.
And
thank you for the "dearest". It's a pleasure to talk with
the well mannered.
Miss
E
There is this boy that I see while
I am at work. He always waves, but I do not even know his
name. I think that he is really cute and I would love it
if he would ask me out on a date. Do you think that I
should go introduce myself to him and give him my phone number
or should I just wait for him to ask me first?
Dear Waiting,
Just how long do you
want to wait? Ask him out! He may secretly hope that
you will ask first anyway. Just don't be disappointed if he says
no, although I can't imagine that he would turn down a sweetie
like you.
Miss
E
At my work
place I am the only one with my job. Unfortunately I have
a co-worker that seems to think that he can do my job for me.
He is helpful at times, but most of the time he just gets in my
way and gets on my nerves. It would be one thing if he
even knew what he is talking about, but most of the time he has
no clue. What do I do? I'm afraid if I say anything
to him he will get all bent out of shape and just act very
immature. Please help me!
Hey there Only One,
You certainly have a dilemma.
You can either let someone screw up your reputation for doing
your job, or you can piss off someone that thinks they are
helping you out. Have no fear, there are choices to be made.
First, don't let Mr. Clueless
have the opportunity to do your job. When they offer to help,
refuse. If they make the mistake of bulling their way in to do
it for you, rear up on your hind legs and assert your position.
There is only one way for you to regain the upper hand here, and
that is to be where you are supposed to be, when you are
supposed to be. Then Mr. Clueless will find there is no room at
the helm for him.
Miss
E
Mad
about him
Dear
Miss Eden,
A little
while ago I broke up with this guy to try something stupid that
didn't work. Anyway, so we are dating again but it is taking
so long to get back to the way it was. I know it will probably
take a while but I am having trouble with it. I just know we
were meant for each other. Is there anything I can do to regain
his trust?
Hopelessly
that guy's
Dear
hopelessly,
Well
honey, everyone makes mistakes! Yours just happened to involve
breaking someone's heart. He's going to be really cautious
for a while, so DON'T give him any reason to doubt you. Be
available; show him he really is the only one you love. In time,
he'll forget to remember this little incident.
Here's
a little piece of advice you didn't ask for.
STAY
ON BIRTH CONTROL.
Babies
are forever, and if this happens NOT to work out, your load in
life will be some sad memories, and not a diaper bag and car
seat.
Miss
E
Dear
Miss Eden,
Okay...I will
just jump right in. I have this friend who recently went
through a divorce...she's young and cute, well educated and has
a great job.
The problem is, she seems to be going through a very crazy
stage. I have
gone through a similar experience and I don't want her to get
hurt or have
anything awful happen. She is feeling very rejected and
angry, and may be
trying to run from her feelings (she goes out to the bar/club A
LOT). Tell
me how to talk to her without making her feel like I think she's
acting like
an idiot...or make her feel like I think I am better than her
(because I
definitely am not!)
One more question...how would you go about asking your boss for
a raise?
Thanks,
One
concerned friend (who desperately needs a raise)
Dear
concerned,
I was reading along, thinking about your friend's problem,
trying to wrap my mind around a good answer and WHAM! You throw
in a whole 'nother question about money! Back to problem one.
You'll just have to be there for her. There is nothing you can
say that will get her through this trauma. There is nothing you
can do that will save her from herself. She has to go through
this grieving process at her own speed. A divorce is the same as
a death of someone close. You are already doing the best thing
possible for her, and that is you are her friend and you listen.
Do lots of listening. She'll be okay; lots of us go through
this and come out alive and happy. She will too.
Question
#2: Just ask. You may get one, you may not, but it never hurts
to ask. It may be that you are in line for a raise, but just not
yet. Just do your job the best you can and I'm sure you'll
be rewarded properly.
Miss
E
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